Wednesday, 12 November 2008

Pennies, pain and pans!

My Kitchen

My friend Nath is having a Fibro Flare today and needs a hand with the dishes. I wish I could help him, I would but he lives in Scotland so by the time I'd get there I'd be spoonless!

I am focusing on saving my spoons and having very little help at home is not only taking up my spoons but Oli's too. We are both running on a spoon deficit. When I clean up, I get over whelmed with fatigue afterwards, I pull muscles and the pain is very overwhelming. I may look OK, gorgeous and in a good mood, but I'm always in pain.
We get no help at all, we can't afford to hire a cleaner. We don't get any help from family or friends, and by the time we have cleaned up, Oli has no spoons left to help me manage my pain, and I have no spoons to make him a cuppa. Sex is out of the question when the house is a mess!

I felt really embarrassed recently when Rehan came to stay and the place was a mess, he helped me with the dishes, we both had a sponge each!

Most people see us on the outside, Oli has friends round once a week for gaming etc, I rarely have friends or family round, and none of our friends (minus Rehan *wink*) would be willing to help. Whether they see our situation and think us lazy, or think that once they start lending a hand they'll never stop, or that we could never repay the favour I just don't know.

I don't know if Oli can see it, but he needs help too. He can't be expected to clean everything up.

What I am basically saying is that if I get help it saves me spoons, so I can save spoons for you! People can get the best out of me, and I can get the best out of life.

So what can we do? Could you give us a hand? Or is our situation too much of a burden?


Anonymous said...

When I am able to move up I'd help out every day, you won't have to pay me back in any way except by being my friend. You've always been there for me so the best I can do is the same. Sorry if this all sounds a bit soppy. I never know what to say or when to say it, perhaps that's why I am what I am.

That pool looks awesome, I need to go swimming, I don't think I've been in like 10 years. I haven't really caught up with things in like a decade.

Chronically Claire said...

Yes you are soppy but I love ya loads for it!

We should go swimming, you need to get all muscley!