My friend Nath is having a Fibro Flare today and needs a hand with the dishes. I wish I could help him, I would but he lives in Scotland so by the time I'd get there I'd be spoonless!
I am focusing on saving my spoons and having very little help at home is not only taking up my spoons but Oli's too. We are both running on a spoon deficit. When I clean up, I get over whelmed with fatigue afterwards, I pull muscles and the pain is very overwhelming. I may look OK, gorgeous and in a good mood, but I'm always in pain.
We get no help at all, we can't afford to hire a cleaner. We don't get any help from family or friends, and by the time we have cleaned up, Oli has no spoons left to help me manage my pain, and I have no spoons to make him a cuppa. Sex is out of the question when the house is a mess!
I felt really embarrassed recently when Rehan came to stay and the place was a mess, he helped me with the dishes, we both had a sponge each!
Most people see us on the outside, Oli has friends round once a week for gaming etc, I rarely have friends or family round, and none of our friends (minus Rehan *wink*) would be willing to help. Whether they see our situation and think us lazy, or think that once they start lending a hand they'll never stop, or that we could never repay the favour I just don't know.
I don't know if Oli can see it, but he needs help too. He can't be expected to clean everything up.
What I am basically saying is that if I get help it saves me spoons, so I can save spoons for you! People can get the best out of me, and I can get the best out of life.
So what can we do? Could you give us a hand? Or is our situation too much of a burden?